Navigating Teenage Body Modification Decisions: Parents, Rights, and Responsibilities
Scenario: My 14-year-old daughter came home with a tongue piercing. What should I do?
This scenario is quite common among parents today, as teenagers often explore various forms of body modification as a way to express themselves. While it can be concerning for parents, it's essential to approach this situation with a blend of understanding and clear communication.
The Risks and Concerns
When teenagers start getting piercings or tattoos, parents often express their concerns. My daughter added a navel ring and within a month, her navel was infected. This quick infection, which led to the removal of the ring, highlights the potential risks involved. Additionally, she put a stud in her tongue that eventually cracked her teeth, a serious consequence that resulted in the removal of the piercing.
These events should serve as a reminder that even though some piercings seem minor, they can have significant and longer-lasting effects, from infections to dental damage. As her mother or father, it's crucial to discuss these potential risks with your child.
Laws and Rights
In the United States, piercings and tattoos on minors are generally illegal without notarized consent from a parent or guardian. This means that a minor cannot legally get a piercing or tattoo without a parent's permission. If a teenager performs modifications without permission, they might open the business up to legal issues, and the authorities could involve themselves if underage.
As a retired piercer, I understand the importance of parental consent in legally regulated procedures. If someone performs a piercing or tattoo on a minor without proper consent, they violate the law. In such cases, you should call the police to have the person responsible arrested, especially if the shop is operating without a license.
Supporting Your Teenager
While it's important to be aware of the risks and legal restrictions, it's equally important to support your child's choices to some extent. By offering guidance rather than simply prohibiting, you can help them understand the potential consequences. Many teenagers will learn from their mistakes, and later in life, they may decide to remove piercings or tattoos.
Legal and Ethical Considerations for Parents and Businesses
Parents must also be vigilant about ensuring their child's safety. If you find out that someone posed as your child's guardian and performed a piercing without permission, it's crucial to address this. In some cases, you might need to report the shop or the individual responsible. Piercers and tattoo artists are required to obtain parental consent legally, and there are serious repercussions for not following these rules.
Additionally, if the parent-teen relationship involves trust issues or the teenager is obtaining piercings or tattoos without proper consent, it's best to have an open and honest conversation with both parties involved.
Expression and Identity
It's a personal choice whether to get a piercing or tattoo. I started getting piercings and tattoos at a young age, and they have become an important part of my personal expression. My mother wasn't always happy with my choices but she supported me, and I took most of the piercings out except for a few key ones.
Allowing teenagers to make their own choices regarding body modifications can help them develop self-awareness and the ability to take responsibility for their actions. It's essential to balance guidance with respect and understanding. Encourage them to consider the long-term impact and discuss the pros and cons of each decision.
Conclusion
Teenagers often use body modification as a way to express themselves and identify with their peers. While it's understandable to be concerned as a parent, it's important to approach this topic with maturity and open communication. By educating your child about the potential risks and providing support, you can help them navigate this journey responsibly.
Remember, as a parent, you can have an impact by fostering a healthy, trusting environment that encourages your teenager to make well-informed decisions. And if you find yourself in a similar situation, don't hesitate to seek legal advice or support.