Should You Shave ‘Down There’? A Woman’s Perspective
For many women, the issue of shaving ‘down there’ often arises in relationships, particularly from partners who pressure their significant others to conform to a certain ideal. In this article, I will offer insights and advice based on my own experiences to help you navigate this complex and personal decision.
Personal History and Insights
Currently 75 years old, I have been married to my wife for 48 years, and this is my second and currently only long-term relationship (LTR). The first was with a woman six years older than me, who is my age now. In that relationship, her pubic hair provided no issue for me and allowed me to perform oral intimacy with ease. This was during a time when I was not shaving other areas of my body, and I experienced no significant benefits from removing hair in that region.
Gender Differences and Preferences
It’s important to note that not all men are bothered by pubic hair, just as not all women have any discomfort from the presence of hair in this area. In my experience, both my past and current partners’ pubic hair has never been a barrier for me, and I have found it more natural and comfortable to keep it intact.
Natural vs. Trimmed Pubic Hair
For many women, maintaining natural pubic hair that is simply trimmed if it becomes too thick and heavy is a more comfortable and natural choice. However, some women find that keeping their hair fully shaved makes them feel more confident and adult. Ultimately, it’s your body and your choice.
Communicating Your Decision
If your partner insists that you shave your pubic hair, here are some suggestion on how to handle it:
*Tell him no. It’s your body and your choice. Your partner should respect your personal preferences.
*Explain that it’s for you to decide, not for him. Nothing is wrong with having a natural-looking pubic area.
*Suggest that he adapt to your comfort level.
*If he continues to insist, you might need to reconsider the relationship. If he leaves you because you have natural hair, your relationship may not be strong enough in the first place.
*Suggest he pay for professional grooming if he really wants it. This takes the choice out of your hands and places it on him.
Historical and Cultural Context
In the past, both women and men did not regularly shave in this area. Today, societal norms have changed, and many women choose to shave to feel more comfortable in revealing clothing or in intimate situations. However, it’s important to recognize that this is a personal choice and not a requirement for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
Trimming vs. Full Shave
If your partner is worried about longer hairs from a full shave, you could discuss trimming the hair around the labia area instead of going fully shaved. This can significantly reduce the itchiness and discomfort associated with hair growth.
Body Positivity and Personal Comfort
The decision to shave or not to shave ‘down there’ should be based on your personal comfort and body positivity. If you feel confident and comfortable without shaving, then that should be your choice. However, if you prefer to shave for personal reasons, that is also your choice.
Conclusion
In the end, what matters most is that you and your partner feel comfortable and happy with each other. Open communication and mutual respect are key to a healthy relationship. If your partner’s insistence on shaving your pubic hair is causing you stress or discomfort, it may be a sign that your relationship is not as healthy as you’d like it to be.