Why I Refuse to Return to My Former Barbershop

There have been many instances where a personal cut at a barbershop did not meet my standards or left me feeling uncomfortable. One particular place stands out in my memory: a Malay barbershop I frequented during my secondary school days.

Unsatisfactory Haircut Experience

Back in those times, I was particularly sensitive about my haircuts. One day, I asked for a simple trim, but when the barber used a very short clipper attachment, it ended up looking like a buzz cut. The worst part? Instead of addressing my concerns, they began making fun of me. The insensitivity of the barbershop staff not only undermined my self-esteem but also led me to discontinue my visits there.

Hurtful and Disrespectful Treatment

The instances of mockery, such as being called by the derogatory term 'Gemok' (meaning 'fat' in Malay), and constantly being offered a buzz cut ('Botak' in Malay) were more than just irritating—they were hurtful. Perhaps the most egregious experience was when the barber, without asking for permission, completely shaved off my eyebrows.

Self-Care and the Importance of a Good Cut

Looking back, there have been times when I would grow my hair out or simply didn't have the budget for frequent haircuts. In these scenarios, I used do-it-yourself techniques to keep my hair looking decent, such as coloring, perming, or even cutting and trimming myself.

The reason I don't return to a barbershop when I experience a poor haircut or when I feel disrespected is fundamental. My hair is a significant part of my identity, and I am meticulous about how I present myself. Regular retouches from a professional who isn't doing a good job not only detracts from my appearance but also compromises my sense of self.

One of the most important aspects of maintaining a positive self-image is being satisfied with how one looks, and this includes having a haircut that leaves me feeling confident and respected. I prefer to keep my hair at home and do it myself if necessary, rather than returning to a place where such actions took place.

Seeking a Professional with Respect and Skill

Now, when I seek a haircut, I ensure that the barber I choose is not just skilled but also respectful. I prioritize finding someone who can cut my hair the way I like it, without reducing me to such humiliating situations.

Conclusion

Choosing the right barbershop isn't just about finding someone who can cut hair well; it's about finding a place where you feel respected and valued. Each trim is a moment to care for my identity, and I won't compromise on that. It's important for me to take care of my appearance and ensure that I am proud of how I look. If a hair stylist can't do that for me, I will find someone who can.